About Not Keeping Me Informed
As I have been expecting for sometime, I have confirmed that I have fallen out of the loop with my friends. Last night Father Jones called me up telling me that he had a hall pass from his wife and I should join him for beers. I wasn’t much in the mood but it’s rare that I actually get invited to come out and meet for drinks with my friends (particularly those who have a wife and kids) so I took him up on the offer. I met Father Jones and Squiggley at The Lazy Dog. It was there that I learned that Mr. Jones is definitely moving to Atlanta in March, that Squiggley has been out of work for almost two weeks, and that Mrs. Freedom lost her job too (she was actually a the bar by chance, having a going away party with coworkers). And I swear I was the last to find out that Dan had a bun in the oven and another friend had two. So, I realized that I really do have to start keeping in touch more often. Some of it’s my fault (probably more than I’d care to admit) and it kind of sucks. Have I become way too independent? I’ll have to examine this. Fortunately this weekend I’ll get a chance to see all these people and bitch at them about not keeping me informed.
Also, I’ve recently discovered that there is shit that I write here that can cause problems in my real life relationships. It’s a sucky realization, but is probably something that every person who does this sort of thing (writes down there personal shit that is) runs across at some point. I definitely have a better understanding of how having a blog can complicate my life.
1 chevy Says:
i should think youve gotten some good things from your blog.
2 hubs Says:
I definitely have gotten some wonderful things. The good have by far outwieghed anything negative. Complicated doesn’t necessarily = bad. Sometimes it takes a little complicatedness to open my eyes.
3 eelnahs Says:
i know the feeling about not being able to write what you want.
4 lotus Says:
I’m sure it’s not your fault that you’ve lost touch with your friends. With wives and kids, they have a lot more to juggle than you do…
5 Dahl Says:
was actually discussing this with Sam the other day. realized that if there was something i really wanted to talk about in my blog that might make things complicated means that we should probably be talking about them in person. that the blog helps me sort things out in my mind that are bothering me, and my knowing more of my audience as time goes by just forces me to confront those feelings in real life as well. but that’s just me.
6 chevy Says:
i think dahl makes an excellent point.
7 hubs Says:
eelnahs - it’s not so much being able to write what i want. i write pretty much whatever i want here. i have made a concerted effort not to write anything here, about anybody i know, that i wouldn’t say to their face. if i can’t tell them, then why tell you?
lotus - yeah, you’re correct that some of my friends are particularly busy, but i often think that that is why i should be putting in more of an effort, because i’m not as busy and have the time to reach out. i guess they just don’t always have the time to reach back.
dahl - you hit the nail on the head once again. i think what made my realization sucky was that despite my intentions, i actually did hurt somebody’s feelings and the reality of that was complicated, and well, that’s sucky. i don’t know much of my auddience in real life, however, i have found that one of the great things about blogging is that it can help sort things out here in my actual world. this allows me to confront certain things, for instance: “fortunately this weekend I’ll get a chance to see all these people and bitch at them about not keeping me informed”. though, i didn’t do as much bitching as i would have liked, my friends are just too nice to bitch at too much.
8 deb Says:
When I first started my site, I sort of kept it to myself. I told one friend, he drunkenly told the rest - now all of my friends read it, and though I have never said anything outwardly offensive about anyone - they’re dolls, I have no reason to - I can imagine where a sticky situation could happen.
What I mean is … yeah, I know, hubs.
9 Lux Says:
Speaking of the good, I just read the BlogLove volumes one and two…
…awwww! so sweeeeet!
10 Dahl Says:
just as an aside to deb’s comment, even though i told most of my friends about my blog, oddly i don’t think any of them read it. and then i feel like yelling at them when they ask me what’s been going on.
11 h Says:
i understand completely… but i’d be lost without my blog.. it’s where I vent and have met some really great friends.