Traits That Happy People Have In Common

Mark and Angel provide some great reminders that life is what you make of it. I know, it is sometimes difficult to make anything of it, but happiness is often found in trying. Bottom line: You can choose happiness. Enjoy

  1. They are ‘glass half full’ people – while still being practical and down-to-earth. They have an ability to find the good in any situation.
  2. They understand that happiness is a choice, and consciously and methodically create their own happiness, while others hope happiness will find them.
  3. They are ambitious. They don’t believe in, or wait for fate, destiny, chance or luck to determine or shape their future. They take control and choose to live their best life rather than spending it on auto-pilot.
  4. They have clarity and certainty about what they want and don’t want for their life. They visualize and plan their best reality while others are merely spectators of life. They have identified their core values – what is important to them – and they do their best to live a life which is reflective of these values.
  5. They ask the right questions – the ones which put them in a happy, creative, positive mindset and emotional state.
  6. They rarely complain because they know it’s a waste of energy. All complaining does is put the complainer in a negative state of mind.
  7. They don’t procrastinate and they don’t spend their life waiting for the ‘right time’. They are busy, productive and proactive with their goals. While most are laying on the couch, over-planning, over-thinking, sitting on their hands and generally going around in circles, they are out there taking steps in the right direction.
  8. They are fearful like everyone else, but they are not controlled or limited by their fears – they face them and grow beyond them over time.
  9. They don’t blame others. They take complete responsibility for their actions and outcomes, or their lack thereof.
  10. While they are not necessarily more talented than the majority, they always find ways to maximize their potential. They get more out of themselves by exercising their talents and their passions. In other words, they use what they have more effectively, which leads to long-term personal achievement and happiness.

30 Ways To Make Your Life More Simple

  1. Don’t maintain, sustain
  2. Ponder more
  3. Also stop eating
  4. Take off your clothes
  5. Instigate fewer fights
  6. Resign from all of your commitments
  7. Just throw stuff away for God’s sake
  8. Remove your doors
  9. Start your day off
  10. Don’t poop (see #3)
  11. Loosen your load (not related to previous)
  12. Elude
  13. Huladancewhirlspin
  14. Less scouring
  15. Polytask
  16. Freak the fuck out
  17. Don’t try it
  18. If you have to try it, abbreviate it
  19. Edit you
  20. Simplify the Streamlining of your hacking systems
  21. Email stuff
  22. Pay attention to your 5 pdq’s
  23. Get more money honey
  24. Forget about it
  25. Cut off a couple of fingers on each hand – and maybe an ear
  26. Clutter clutter
  27. Take a minute to notice your elbows
  28. Anaesthetize
  29. Relocate closer
  30. Make a habit out of it everyday

Principles Of Being An Adult

Many years ago, on the eve of his 30th birthday, John Perry Barlow sat down and created a list of guiding principles to being an adult. A few weeks ago he shared them all. I thought it was a great list so I assembled all here from his twitter feed.

  • Be patient. No matter what.
  • Don’t badmouth: Assign responsibility, not blame. Say nothing of another you wouldn’t say to him.
  • Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you.
  • Expand your sense of the possible.
  • Don’t trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.<
  • Don’t ask more of others than you can deliver yourself.
  • Tolerate ambiguity.
  • Laugh at yourself frequently.
  • Concern yourself with what is right rather than who is right.
  • Try not to forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.
  • Give up blood sports.
  • Remember that your life belongs to others as well. Don’t risk it frivolously.
  • Never lie to anyone for any reason. (Lies of omission are sometimes exempt.)
  • Learn the needs of those around you and respect them.
  • Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission and pursue that.
  • Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.
  • Praise at least as often as you disparage.
  • Admit your errors freely and quickly.
  • Become less suspicious of joy.
  • Understand humility.
  • Remember that love forgives everything.
  • Foster dignity.
  • Live memorably.
  • Love yourself.
  • Endure.

Also from Mr. Barlow, who considers himself “an excellent ex”, comes this tweeted bit of advice:


The free corporate tickets my company gave me to last nights Rockies game are on the third tier. From up there we could see me girlfriends’ firms tickets – front row directly behind the cameras next to the visitors dug out. We also saw that one of the guys she works with had two empty seats next to him. A couple of text messages later and we were right there practically on the diamond. You couldn’t get any closer to the game.

As I was scarfing down a bowl full of deluxe nachos and a beer, an usher brought a group of six young boys, all decked out in there little league uniforms, up to the cameras right next to us. He set the boys up in a staggered line with the smallest kids in front. On the ushers cue, one of the cameras stopped filming the game and swung around to face the boys. The kids went crazy cheering and pumping there fists. And then I noticed they were on the jumbotron.

Now was my chance!

I leaned way over in front of a kid. Never taking my eyes off the jumbotron I put a big smile on my face and popped a deluxe nacho dripping with cheese, chili, and jalapeno into my mouth. I did it! I finally made it onto the jumbotron at a major sporting event. Eating nachos for the world. An then the camera immediately turned off. I wasn’t on the screen for even a second. And to be honest there is some dispute as to whether my face made it onto the screen or if it was just my elbow. But I swear me and my nachos were on there for a-half-a-second.

The Rockies may have lost but I got to put another check mark on my bucket list. Next time I’m bringing my camera.

I Better Get Back To Work

By my age:

    Based on a nightmarish dream, Robert Louis Stevenson wrote The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
    Russian ambassador Aleksandr Borosovich Kurakin introduced the practice of serving meals in courses.
    Frederic William Herschel, an English astronomer, invented the contact lens.
    American sprinter Evelyn Ashford won her final Olympic gold medal at age 35, old for a sprinter.
    Amedeo Avogadro developed Avogadro’s hypothesis.
    Law School professor Anita Hill charged that Supreme Court nominee Clarence Thomas made indecent remarks to her.
    Margie Profet proposed a new theory of menstruation which claims that menstruation protects against infection and won a MacArthur Foundation “genius” grant.
    Astronaut Buzz Aldrin achieved his life’s ambition at age 35 and wondered, what do you do after that?
    Mozart stopped composing and started, well, you know.

While You’re Still Employed

My few weeks of unemployment have taught me some valuable lessons. The ten most important ones are listed below.

1. Constantly be updating your resume. If you haven’t updated your resume in 5 plus years, it’s going to take you a full week to track down the information about your old employers, type up a draft, find eligible references, get friends and family to read over the draft, and then make the necessary changes. Do it every six months while your employed.

2. Buy that new suit while you’re still employed. Forking out that $500 some-odd dollars hurts when you’re not gettin’ paid.

3. Regardless of your situation, apply for unemployment benefits. Don’t let pride get in the way of this, you have been paying for it your entire working life.

4. On the day after your first full work day spent on the couch watching MTV’s spring break, buy your family’s Christmas and birthday presents. Then tear up your credit cards.

5. While you actually have a job, make a list of everything that you would like to do if you didn’t have to be at work. Because the day you get fired/layed-off/quit you’ll forget all the fun things you should be doing. It’s like walking into a great record store: the second you cross the threshold, your mind drops the names of all the cool bands you’ve been wanting to check out.

6. Go on vacation. Be sure to leave town at least once while you’re not working. You don’t get many chances to go on a vacation and have nothing to come back to. The experience is incomparable. Book a flight before you throw out your credit card (see #4).

7. Don’t quit smoking. Now is not the time nor place for such risky measures.

8. Work. But don’t work that hard. Finding a job can be a full time job in itself. Don’t let it come to that. Spend four hours a day looking for work. Spend the rest of the time getting in the way of the plumber at your girlfriends house and hitting golf balls. On the contrary, don’t get lazy.

9. Go outside. A lot. It really does help.

10. Keep your routine. Continue to get up at your regular time each morning. Do something productive in the morning (laundry counts).

Eleven Is The Easiest Number That There Ever Was

Eleven really easy things that will make my life exponentially better:

Setting stops on all my trades
Doing more work when at work
Fixing more meals
Using my work computer for more work stuff
Calling my friends more often
Studying and researching more

Letting my dishes sit in the sink for more that a night
Staying at work past 6:00
Eating out so often
Staying out so late
Thinking more than doing

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